The period after your breakup can be the toughest, especially if you are the one who got dumped. When I was younger I would always cut my hair after my relationships ended and every single time I regretted it the next day.
After breakups give yourself the opportunity to actually understand what went wrong and to come up with solutions on how you can avoid making the same mistakes in the future. You really should not be making drastic decisions that may affect you negatively in the long run.
Here are 8 things you should never do after a breakup:
Self-Destruct – Breakups really hurt, however it is not okay for you to dress in tattered clothing, forget about showers/hygiene or cause harm to your body. S/he really isn’t worth it. Instead take extra care of yourself. Show them it is their lost!
Beg For Another Try –look at me…No! A relationship is not like the lottery- the more chances you take does not increase the probability of the relationship being a better one. People breakup and make up all the time (cliche) however the “make up” only works if the couple spends enough time apart to understand why they opted to breakup in the first place.
Hook Up – Whatever you do, do not become their booty call. If you’re not good enough to be his girlfriend, you are not good enough to be his bed whore. Harsh? Yes! But you really need to get it.
Act as if you are not phased– If you have to cry then cry – a good damn cry too. Cry until you feel like you’ve gotten rid of the hurt caused by the breakup; cry until you get to thinking – “you know what I am going to be better”. Cry for days, maybe even a week… but after the one month mark it is really time to lift yourself up and move on.
Ask People About Them. You need not call his/her friends up to know what s/he is doing. Why? Because I can answer that for you. They’re doing one thing- moving on and you should too. Nope, they’re not sad. And please try not to stalk their Facebook and Twitter accounts, it is not going to help your cause.
Telephone Calls/E-mails/Texts– It is very true that some breakups are amicable; however immediately after your breakup the less contact you make with your ex, the easier it will be for you to move on.
Rebound Dating – Whether you are doing it to make them jealous or you just cannot stand to be alone, rebounding is never a good option. Most times people just out of a serious relationship are incapable of making reasonable dating decisions since they have not properly learnt the lesson from their previous relationship.
Give Up On Love – Do not allow one bad experience to change the way you look at relationships. Relationships done right can be the most beautiful thing you can ever experience. So dust yourself off and try again!