How Soon Is Too Soon To Have Sex

What better way to start our sex column than to tackle the question that is on most women’s mind- ‘How Soon Is Too Soon To Have Sex.’

 There is no right or wrong answer to this question. However, answering this question is easier when you would have established: what kind of relationship you are looking for and your view on sex. If you are not looking for a serious relationship and sex for you is only about pleasure, then have sex as soon as you get HIV/STD tests done. On the other hand, if you are looking for a long term relationship and view sex as sacred and sensual, you should put sex on hold until you get to know your significant other better. It is never too practical to put a time span on when is the right time because you could be dating someone for six months without spending enough time with them to know what they are like.

Ladies, every guy you meet after the age of 16 will want to have sex with you, however if he is truly interested in you, he will want a little challenge. Mind you, he does not want you to keep this challenge up for years. However a man will never feel comfortable knowing that his wife was very easy in the beginning.

Although women won’t admit, sexual intercourse with someone that they find interesting create a sense of dependency/false commitment. Here I will recommend that if you are crazy about him but you are not sure what he feels for you- you do not have sex with him. You see if sex was all he wanted and he leaves you immediately after, you will become a bitter woman incapable of loving anyone else.

sex2You should only have sex when you are in a better position to know -:

  1. If he is trying to make you his only girl or the side chick
  2. If it is what you really want
  3. If it is what you really want
  4. If he is in the negative crew when it comes HIV & STDs. Remember you need two tests to be sure. The second one should be three months after the first.
  5. If your personalities are compatible.
  6. If you are absolutely on the same page when it comes to expectations after sex.

It is a very common misconception among women that good sex keeps him interested – total opposite! If he is into you, he is into you, if he is not, he is not.  Take your time get to know him, see his many sides and show him yours, anytime before that is too soon.


Trust me there are a lot of pleasurable things you can do in the meantime. 

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